As the Christmas tree is thrown out and the wrapping paper cleared away, the empty Champagne bottles taken out behind the garage, Google searches for terms like “divorce lawyer” and “file for divorce” spike. Many of the people researching how to untie the knot will probably not do so. But some will.Marriage isn't about two people, it is the foundation for the family. And as such, it should never be taken lightly or dependent upon something as ephemeral as "happiness".
Brad Wilcox and Samuel Sturgeon of the Institute for Family Studies suggest that there might be good reason to hold off, particularly if you have kids. Of course, there might be good reason not to hold off! But the majority of divorces involving kids don’t come from “high conflict” marriages or situations involving abuse; Wilcox and Sturgeon point to data indicating that most divorces come from couples who are still basically functioning as parents.
Counterintuitively, kids whose parents divorce amid flying crockery and lurid accusations may actually do better, post-divorce, than kids whose parents unhappily fizzle out. But if you think about it for a while, that’s not all that surprising. In homes with major conflict, divorce brings a certain measure of peace and stability. But if your parents are basically civil to each other, divorce could come as an unwelcome surprise.
Our parents, our family unit, are the first and most bedrock fact of our lives. Suddenly breaking that apart -- for no reason apparent to the children involved -- shakes a faith in the world that will never be rebuilt in quite the same way. Moreover, divorce often means downward economic mobility. Unless you are hugely wealthy, splitting your income across two households means that sacrifices have to be made by both parties, and often, that financial stress is added to the emotional upheaval of unraveling two lives.
Small wonder, then, that the children of divorce tend to have worse outcomes on various measures than the children whose parents stay together: According to Wilcox and Sturgeon, “Divorce typically doubles or triples the odds that children will experience depression, delinquency, school failure, or future relationship difficulties.”
Sunday, January 15, 2017
As always, exceptions serve as the basis for poor generalities, lousy justifications, and bad policies. In most cases, divorce will have negative long-term consequences for the children involved.
Saturday, January 14, 2017
In which women are advised to keep multiple plates spinning, and how to hide the fact they are doing so:
- Never got to the same place with different guys
- Don’t arrange to go on two dates on the same day. The last thing you want is to call your date the name of the other man or getting confused about conversations you already had with the other one.
- Don’t connect with them on social media. It’s a small world and you never know who is connected to whom and you certainly don’t want any of your dates to post any updates that might give away the fact that you are dating different people.
- At the end of the day, if you’re not seeing someone exclusively, there shouldn’t be a problem with seeing different people at the same time, so keep your options open and keep an open mind.
- Get a dating phone, a separate number from your personal line.
- Get a dating email. Give both out to any dates and keep your privacy.
- Keep your first dates very short - a maximum two hour drink date. This way you can 'stack' date, with different men on the same evening.
- Retain mystery when answering dating questions, for example, if he asks 'who else are you dating?' Respond 'that would be telling.'
Friday, January 13, 2017
Oh, you already know the rest:
A former Miss Italy contestant may lose her sight and will have to have plastic surgery after acid was thrown in her face. Gessica Notaro, who has worked as a TV presenter as well as a dolphin trainer, was allegedly attacked by her former boyfriend, who is accused of stalking her after she broke up with him.I was mildly surprised to see what looked like a Latin name. Then I saw the pictures. Of course, white women aren't going to learn anything from all these attacks until one of the Kardashians is blinded or murdered by her vibrant du jour.
Newspaper La Stampa reports that the 28-year-old suffered deep burns to her face and eye, and is being treated in hospital in Cesena, where doctors fear she may lose her sight. Miss Notaro also suffered injuries to her hip and leg in the horror attack outside her home. It is alleged that Tavares, who has been arrested and remanded in custody, harassed Miss Notaro after she ended their relationship in August last year.
Thursday, January 12, 2017
This observation shows how those who are always advising politicians to chase the electorate are really revealing their fundamental inability to understand human nature or why people vote for one representative versus another. It is apparent that even though they don't like him or his objectives, the media is rapidly developing a grudging respect for the God-Emperor Ascendant:
"If you sent Donald Trump to Pamplona for the bull run he would quite possibly run towards the bull. And the beast might well, in such circumstances, do a quick U-turn and gallop to safety."That's how people react to genuine Alphas. Alphas always steer towards open confrontation, they don't try to avoid it, or worse, engage in passive-aggressive sniping from safety.
- Quentin Letts, Daily Mail
Wednesday, January 11, 2017
Dalrock and Doug Wilson observe that the "only real man in the room" preacher is engaging in a literally Satanic practice:
The Serpent knew the way to tempt Eve was to make her feel like God was holding out on her, that she was getting less than she deserved. Adam knew following Eve was a sin, but chose sin over challenging his wife. It was more important to make Eve happy than to follow God.
Belittling men feels good*, and is easy. Calling out women feels terrible, and is hard. Absent concerted effort not to fall into this rut, we will slide into it. We will do what feels good and is easy over what feels terrible and is hard. It really is that simple.
*It feels like courage because you are calling out your own kind, a sort of vicarious self criticism. Yet at the same time it is really a way to elevate yourself above other men, as the only real man in the room. It is cowardice and arrogance that feels like courage and humility. And again it is easy. The men you are belittling will generally go along, because it makes Eve happy.
Tuesday, January 10, 2017
The Chateau observes that white men are no longer interested in being lectured by their hypocritical inferiors:
There’s fight left in White men. The time is coming, very soon now, when the paper tigress of shitliberalism is exposed on the vivisecting table, and unapologetic shitlords stream out of their bunkers armed to the teeth with the liberating knowledge that the passive-aggressive snarl is all their enemies bring to battle, and behind that snarl there’s nothing but cowardly submission.Don't hide your contempt. Don't hide your total rejection of the daily SJW Narrative. Let them know that the fire is rising and it is going to entirely consume them.
Speaking of a White fire rising:
A rare breed, two Pedowood shitlords, react to post-Wall harridan Meryl Streep’s anti-Trump self-aggrandizing harangue on stage. Look at the fire in Vince Vaughn’s and Mel Gibson’s eyes. These are men asking themselves, and the world, “Who bitch this is?”. They forge in the furnace of their unalloyed disgust a quiet and seething intolerance for the enemies of White men; a vengeance devised to settle the ultimate score — recapture of their homeland from degenerates within — percolates in their blood and radiates from their irises.
Look at those eyes brimming with righteous hatred closely, and multiply that look by millions, because that’s how many White men of the West feel the same way. And their numbers grow daily. White men are awakening to their planned and active dispossession by malevolent forces corrupting the creation of their ancestors. They see Meryl StreepThroat as another in a long line of preachy hypocritical reprobates shitting on their race and culture and values for fun and profit and the adulation of the elite bubble crowd. This rapidly coalescing army of normal White men and the White women who have not yet abandoned them for the wigger low life knows that attacks on Trump are proxy attacks on Whites.
Monday, January 9, 2017
Notice the relentless expectation of performance, not only his own, but everyone else's too. He's not hesitant to criticize, or express frustration, but he also takes care not to dump the responsibility on the man who made the mistake. He constantly expresses his affection and concern for his subordinates. And he commands authority because he respects it and knows his own place in the chain of command.